It seems as though sometimes grief or pain generates memory, which could have been traumatic, so the grief or pain as a vehicle for important and necessary suffering isn't traumatic, but unless someone has the capacity to uncouple the remembered trauma from the felt experience of suffering, then the suffering (grief or pain) will feel traumatic. I am so concerned about the way "trauma informed care" has been turned into hyper vigilance and reduces anyone's capacity for titrating in suffering, pain or even the trauma memories into the present. I, too, have been exploring the impacts of trauma on the body for over 10 years and am grateful it can be talked about more openly, as you have said about how social media has reduced the human experience to some laundry list of symptoms and to do lists of actions, helping fields have reduced trauma and suffering as something to be eliminated rather than illuminated. I'm always so grateful to hear from you and your articulation.
I agree suffering, pain, overwhelm and dysregulation seem like feeling states rather than traumatic states. Feeling is healing. Trauma is often is held in body, frozen, numb not expressed but can be activated by memories or triggered by events not always felt consciously. Maybe, I'm not sure?
It seems as though sometimes grief or pain generates memory, which could have been traumatic, so the grief or pain as a vehicle for important and necessary suffering isn't traumatic, but unless someone has the capacity to uncouple the remembered trauma from the felt experience of suffering, then the suffering (grief or pain) will feel traumatic. I am so concerned about the way "trauma informed care" has been turned into hyper vigilance and reduces anyone's capacity for titrating in suffering, pain or even the trauma memories into the present. I, too, have been exploring the impacts of trauma on the body for over 10 years and am grateful it can be talked about more openly, as you have said about how social media has reduced the human experience to some laundry list of symptoms and to do lists of actions, helping fields have reduced trauma and suffering as something to be eliminated rather than illuminated. I'm always so grateful to hear from you and your articulation.
So well said, Julianna. I appreciate this articulation so very much.
Social media is so tricky. I love this: "Suffering as something to be eliminated versus illuminated".
Such an important idea for our times.I could have used "Suffering for Dummies" book many moons ago.
Suffering can be part of the process! The struggle to unravel and understand what is underneath and it's sometimes painful to sit with all that!
I agree suffering, pain, overwhelm and dysregulation seem like feeling states rather than traumatic states. Feeling is healing. Trauma is often is held in body, frozen, numb not expressed but can be activated by memories or triggered by events not always felt consciously. Maybe, I'm not sure?